He is dealing with the aftermath of a failed suicide while I spend my time trying to keep busy at home. I learned, growing up, that very principle, that you HAD to marry a member or your marriage was doomed.
There may be underlying personality similarities, but if the answer to "what shall I do next" is always trumped by a Morman frame of reference for one partner, but not the other, conflict is inevitable. I also expected that my spouse would be temple worthy and that I would get married in the temple, which was not the case.
That was literally over years ago.